So about three years ago, my wife and I had decided it was time to expand our family. There are many many joys to the process and lots of dedicated practice
but the final outcome brought forth no success. My wife and I knew we were past the 'biological clock' age (that is 32 for those of you that did not know this), and we decided to go see a specialist after six months. We learned that there were many barriers in our way beginning with age but moving forward from there. First, during our first pregnancy, my wife had a fibroid that grew to be as big as our little girl. My wife looked like she had been carrying twins. We had to have a c section because the fibroid was blocking the birthing path. Our daughter came out fine, but the fibroid never went away. The Dr's had to perform surgery to remove the fibroid. This caused damage to her uterus. Problem number 1. My problem was less dramatic but no less troublesome for our desires for a 2nd child. My 'count' was low due to age and weight.
We spent the next year and a half going through the invetro (IVF) process and were finally successful in getting pregnant (three tries ... lots of money). But after six weeks, the baby did not survive and they had to induce a miscarraige. THen we had learned that all the eggs in cryo (freezing) had died also. After visiting the Dr's again, they told us we had pretty much no chance of getting pregnant again.
We moved forward and looked into adoption. The process for state adoption is extremely long with medical exams, background checks, financial validation, screening and home inspections ... it took us about four months but finally were approved for adoption (foster to adopt), then came the waiting game for the right match for us and a kid.
During this wait, my wife was scheduled to go through ACL knee surgery on September 9th. The night before the surgery we went online to fill out the pre-surgery forms / medical history forms for the hospital. They asked the question 'when was your last menstral cycle. It dawned on us right then that it was five weeks before ... we were late!
A morning preganancy test told us what Dr's said was never going to happen ... we were pregnant! We've not said anything to anyone until now because we wanted to make it through our 9 week appointment (fear of misscarraige). We are Christians and there is no doubt in our mind that God answers prayers ... even if they are in His timeline and not our own
Aside from telling my family, I had the joy of sharing this with some of my closest friends. Jen would be one of those. I've said this before but she is my 'internet sister' and we've been close for some time. She has been through every moment of my ordeal. So to tell her that my wife and I beat the odds and were preganant goes beyond words.
Thanks for being there Jen!