The Bond
Note: This is mostly a study of the bond itself, and is not a complete examination of his relationship with Khida.
The bond Shahar shares with Khida affects him in many ways, as well as some that he himself does not fully understand. Before the bond, Shahar’s sense of self and identity was somewhere between weak and nonexistent. His worldview was almost entirely reactionary and based on events that happened around him; he had no drive, did not strive for or desire anything beyond immediate survival and safety. Once the bond appeared, Khida’s sheer sureness of self anchored him in a way that he didn’t previously know was possible. She became a center for him, or at least a tether that was strong enough for him to form his own center. His own sense of self, as it were. And with that self came the powerful ability to aspire and grow, to see beyond himself and into the world around him. To this day, Shahar remains a man of simple wants and tastes, and his greatest desire is, at its core, home. Where his sense of “home” once consisted of little more than where he happened to sleep, he now has a very strong sense of family and where he belongs. For him, “home” now means more than where he lays down his head. Home is where he knows both he and his family are safe, and for the majority of his remembered life that family consisted of Khida and Akaidras, although in recent seasons it has expanded to include others: Hope, Slither, and now Rue Nightsong as well. He recognizes the Sea of Grass as a dangerous place, and so his aspirations revolve mostly around creating a space of sanctuary, both physically and mentally, for those that he considers family. This can, in its own way, be a full-time duty, especially since his camp tends to linger on the outskirts of Endrykas and is more vulnerable to weather and predators. The physical location must be safe, the tents must be staked and there needs to be food in the pot, and then there are the hundreds of little things that go along with everyday life like replacing rope, weapons, tools, etc. Shahar aspires to provide for his family, and when that task is done there is little more that he finds need to do. Shahar does generally does not pursue more than what he needs, or what will make his family happy.
A side effect of this is that Shahar is very much a homebody, perhaps to the point that others might think him eccentric. Shahar prefers to remain close to his home, even when hunting. He is reluctant to roam more than half an hour’s journey from his camp, and without Khida long trips are out of the question. This has since evolved into more of a preference than a compulsion; Shahar may be a good hunter, but he has never felt the need to prove his mettle against ferocious beasts to earn honor and status like other Drykas might. This is not to say that he avoids larger animals as much as they simply don’t interest him enough to go out of his way; he can get by just fine on the smaller game that he finds within range of his home, and unless his family is affected directly then he simply feels no need to go beyond his typical range. There are, of course, circumstances that can cause him to hunt farther––the drought of summer 514, for example, forced him to do so out of the basic need to find food.
The half-hour rule, however, really only applies to distance rather than time itself; if he is within a ten-minute walk, he is fine spending three hours or more away as long as he feels confident that he can get back within that time if he needs to. I also get the feeling that this would shift with the location of Khida; as the anchor that gave him a home in the first place, he would feel much easier long distances from home if she were with him, although if that were the case then the half-hour distance would probably apply to her, instead.
Despite being bondmates and now even husband and wife, Shahar and Khida’s relationship is primarily non-sexual.