[Gossamer's Scrapbook] The Ethereal Canyon I

[Kreig Messer]

Honestly, I wish I get through stuff like you can. Glad to see you still standing.

[Gossamer]

One More Thing

The more I'm back the more I hear stuff. And what I've been hearing is that a lot of people are being total asses to each other OOC. And while I could get into details and go on and on, what I really want to say is simply this.

Why are you here? I hope your here to write. I hope your here to tell amazing stories and grow a character from nothing into something and revel in the thrill of that. THATS why we created Mizahar. We wanted to tell stories with each other and play. OOC stuff, aside, that's what should be important.

There's a lot of he said she said hes dating her she's licking his boots blah blah blah blah. And then of course the word 'favoritsm' gets kicked around. I'll tell you straight out I treat everyone equally until I find someone that is here to write their ass off. Our last year's NaNo winner comes to mind. Everyone's equal until I see that kind of passion and then of course they get the hell favored out of them. Why? Because that's why we are here and that's what we want to cultivate. How do you make that list? You write the shit out of your character and leave the ooc bitching behind.

All I have to do to see if you where you stand honestly do things like read your scrap. Check out your posts. Are you a giver or do you just react in your replies? I can go type your name into the logs and see what you've been saying in chat to everyone. Is it positive positive positive? Then I'm going to love you to death. Are you bitching, whining, complaining, moaning and comparing yourself and what you have to what someone else has gotten and are unhappy? Then my attitude becomes GTFO. We don't need it.

We need writers, dreamers, and people willing to tell stories! We don't need spoiled rotten privileged brats. If you work hard, the sky is the limit on Mizahar.

This is your first and only warning. I'm back. I have a very low tolerance of spoiled and an even lower tolerance of whiny "I can't" folks. I still think Yoda should have just drowned Luke the first time he said stacking stones with his Jedi Mind Magic was too hard. But then they wouldn't have had a movie. *sigh* Thank God Miz doesn't depend on its Hollywood revenue .

[Firenze]

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I'm really glad to see that things are turning around for you. It sounds as though you've grown in your own personal way and that's really awesome to hear. It's strange the things that make us change. It sounds as though you've turned a not so great situation into a positive situation and that's really what shows the kind of person you are (I'm not quite awake yet and this post might seem a bit choppy haven't quite finished the coffee yet haha) but I wanted to get it posted to you and let you know that I'm proud of you. Both of my grandparents passed away last year and I've struggled with it. I went through a similar experience when my grandpa passed and I started going through everything and throwing it away and it just... shocked me. It broke my heart and at the same time made me realize how short life is and there was so much that I hadn't done yet. It made me reflect in on myself and analyze if I was the person that I wanted to be and if I was where I wanted to be. I'm not trying to say that I understand exactly what you've been going through, but just wanted to let you know that I can understand the changes from losing someone. I know I don't really talk much to you and if we do it's usually only Miz related, but I wanted to reach out and let you know that I'm here. If you need a place to vent, laugh or just chatter at, I'm a pretty good listener

As for the Miz related situations, I can agree. I'm glad to see that you're back and ready to go for the Fall. I'm really excited about the new season and can't wait to see what everyone else is planning and I'm hoping that what I'm bringing in can be useful to others! If there's anything that needs worked on or if I can bring any ideas to the table, please let me know I'd love to help!

Emma

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[Rosela]

I'm very, very glad you've found something to bring some sunshine into your life; it seems like this whole year has been doing its best to drag you down. Sounds like things are starting to turn around though and I hope you have a very orange day ^_^

[Gossamer]

A Piece Of Advice

So I keep getting these PMs that ask for advice at being successful at Mizahar. First and foremost, I think folks need to clarify for me what they think 'successful' is. To me, its having a nice well-rounded PC that people enjoy threading with and a decent reputation in whatever flavor your aiming for IC (a great healer, good friend, evil tyrant, awesome blacksmith, terrible lover) and known as a great drama-free person OOC.

How do you achieve that?

You write. Write selfishly. Write for yourself, not for others, and tell stories you want to read. Don't bend or become something you aren't or have no desire to be. Don't write for others expecting them to write back for you. This goes for one thread or dozens. This goes for five minutes or for years. They won't. Trust me on that one. If you write to be paid back and start some sort of tally in your head, you will be disappointed EVERY TIME. I've spent years at a time writing for people in the capacity of a storyteller and have had them ignore me for others in following years. Don't try to be the person you think others want you to be. Be the best version of yourself you can be. Don't be possessive of other characters in intimate relationships with them. It never works out and tends to bleed over to irl which gets very weird.

Don't cling, whine, or blame others for the short fallings in your own threads or with your own characters. If you don't like something, go out and write to fix it. Not enough drama in your life, go write more drama into it. If you don't think your PC is dark/light enough, darken/lighten their world and they will tint appropriately.

Stop waiting for replies. If you don't get them don't take it personally and go write somewhere else or start new threads. If you are attached to the thread, post again to it. It might motivate the person you are writing with to post. Worst case? Send them a pm nudge. If you hear nothing back or worse yet don't get a reply, they truly don't care regardless of what they say.

Come up with your own plots. Don't depend on others to be entertaining. Entertain yourself and others will be entertained as well.

Don't take excuses. I mean one or two is okay, but ten in a row means something else is up and its usually not good. Do you find yourself making excuses? Cut it out, fool. No one buys it even if the excuses are true. Get the hell out of the irl cycle your in that creates excuses and move forward. If you can't, this isn't the hobby for you. That goes for PCs, Staffers, and anyone. I don't care if its mental, medical, or heaven forbid, the ever present writer's block. Writer's block is just your minds way of saying it doesn't want to write. It just wants to play XBOX or watch TV or go drink heavily at a bar or even at your own home wine bar.

Don't let people disappoint you. If they disappoint you once, move on. You have my permission, even if your moving on from me. I get it.

Succeed at Mizahar? Put words out there and feel the joy of doing that. Make a few friends that have your back. If they let you down, it happens, but don't keep letting them let you down. I'm sure they'll have their own excuses, but "I'm sorry" rarely makes up for it and believe me ten minutes later or ten days later they'll move on because you'll be a source of guilt for them they don't want in their lives.

Forgive if your of a mind too. People here are beautifully flawed and they will not make you happy 100% of the time. Forgive them one or a thousand times. Its all about your personality and what you can tolerate and what matches your ethics.

There is no right or wrong way to do things. There's the Mizahar way, and if that sucks, we apologize for inconveniencing you. But then that's a bit uncharitable because we aren't really sorry. We do things the way we do it for a reason and we'll gladly explain it to you. But then we might be sorry, but it won't be truly sorry, it will be sorry we're not sorry kinda sorry. But you already knew that didn't you? Why?

People that play these sorts of online games aren't stupid. They have higher IQ's than usual and they need the interaction socially. I know I do.

Arguing really solves nothing. Feel free to go on the record that you think whatever is bs. I'm cool with that. But just arguing for the sake of arguing because you think your going to sway someone to your way of thinking is kinda not ever worth it. You just alienate people and they tend to start thinking of you as an asshole.

No one wants that. Fit in and if you don't like things, change it from the inside out by showing (because showing is way more cool than just running off at the mouth) us how something could be easier if its something that can be changed.

Don't make empty promises. Say things like 'I'll try" rather than "I will." Most people understand irl. Most people understand irl crapping all over you. Be forthright about it. Don't be cryptic. I know I hate it more than anything when someone is super obscure. "I'm having surgery. I'm having issues that prevents me from writing. I have to take a trip and be away for several weeks." Just tell us whats going on. Why? Cause then we won't make shit up about you in our minds. Reality is usually a lot kinder than imagination. If you have surgery, I'm 99% sure they are removing your suddenly developing twin. If you have issues preventing you from writing, I automatically assume your mom grounded you off the computer because she caught you watching porn and doing something unspeakable at the computer she worked two jobs to buy you. If your going away for a couple of weeks, I think 'rehab'. No one likes Cryptic explanations.

Anything like the truth is far better... even when its something stupid and non-dramatic like Grandma is coming to move in and doesn't approve of the use of electronics and forces us all to knit around the fire at night after work.... just tell the truth.

For that matter, be as upfront and truthful as you can at all times. This goes for Miz and IRL too. It makes you be less of a jerk and more of a genuine person.

That's it. That's my advice to succeed. I truthfully hope my candor doesn't offend anyone, but if you are offended, ask yourself why.

[Iskessah]

Jen, I am offended. I am truly offended. Not once, but twice, you misused "your" in this scrap, when I believe you meant "you're." I just cant take you seriously now

[Gossamer]

You can't believe how happy it makes me to offend you with a grammatical error. I think that just backs up my thinking and multiple accusations of your anal retentiveness. No?

[Gossamer]

None of you asked yourselves why did you? Nope. Didn't think so.

[Karin]

That's a really good read Gossamer, and excellent advice!

[Gossamer]

When The Cat's Away The Fucking Sleazy Little Mice Will Play

Everytime I leave for just a little bit, banned players come back. And they are dumbshits to the core. I'm especially amused when they think they are sneaking around a ban I placed on them for being dumbshits. Translucent was a horrible horrible AS and was removed from Kenash before she did any lasting damage. Her alts were here for nothing but chat sex, game sex, and attention because evidently her IRL sucked possibly her twice as old as her husband abused her terribly and the only way she could get relief was to be ON THIS GAME. Or so that was the story she told THAT TIME. Who knows what the fuck story she told this time.

Yea.

Well, when your banned, don't apply to be a grader then give out the worst grades possible. Why? Everyone comes to me and starts bitching. When they lead out with things like... "She graded 50 threads in a day...." I know someone's not reading them. Then when I have another long time player that writes a shit ton.... re-grade a few grades and get discrepancies that are fairly significant and lores that don't make sense... I CHECK YOUR FUCKING IP.

Sorry for wasting that DS's time and taking it away from his quirky city to deal with these re-grades, but holy hell.... stupid fucking bitch stay away.

Especially after you write SCATHING reviews about our website and how craptastic it is. I have ZERO tolerance for your kind.

But you know what? The bitch part of me is FUCKING PLEASED I get to ban you AFTER you fucking establish yourself and are enjoying the environment again.

Bye Felicia. You're banned. Again. Keep your batshit crazy self off this site. We don't need the drama. And I'm removing all your fucking bad grades. Sorry folks. You'll have to reapply to get them graded again. But they can't stand as they are.

I'm referring to:

Kailey
Talya
Translucent
Favchean Hronis
Shayna
Purge
Adriel
Ritsua
Mishael Longine

So, in case you think I'm mad, think again. I'm laughing my ass off you dumb bitch.

Hugs and Kisses. Go write more bad reviews.

Goss