by Laszlo on March 3rd, 2012, 10:16 pm
It is so frustrating that, even when you try your hardest to get people to like you, just to feel accepted, there is always that one, unimpressed person who will bias against you on principle. In fact, he might dislike you just BECAUSE you are so well received, because there's that desire to go against the status quo, to think for yourself. He tries SO HARD to make his own opinion, skirting the influence of other people, that his desire for nonconformity has made up his mind for him. He's got to be above it all, the renegade, the outside-thinker. Maybe he's jealous, or feels excluded, but mostly he's just determined to outsmart the masses.
John isn't the nice guy he pretends he is. He's insecure, desperate, shallow, manipulative, and all those blanket words that need no explanation.
There is nothing more insulting than having that outside-thinker talk like he knows you.
And there's nothing you can do to convince him otherwise. All you can do is turn the other cheek, treat him with the same dignity as everyone else, and hope that he has the self awareness to see through his mask of bitterness. It's hard not to reciprocate that spite, to remember that everyone is only human.
It's long been said that you can't please everyone, but it's hard not to take it personally.
We all sit and complain about how cold and sad and pitiful the world is, how infuriating "people" are (like I'm doing now). We need to remind ourselves that "people" is us, and we all have the ability to make the world a friendlier, happier place. Instead of using "people" like it's a group that somehow excludes the speaker, use the words "we" and "us". Ask yourself how you can make something better before you blame someone (even yourself) for the sorry state of things. Choose love before hate, choose modesty before pride, give the benefit of the doubt, remember the golden rule.
This world is only as pathetic, or amazing, or happy, as the peope who live in it.
There is nothing uglier than a closed mind.
In the daytime I am one of Syna's fallen.
At night, I am Symenestra.